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Contrary to popular belief, most phobias are not caused by a single traumatic event, so don’t worry if you can’t remember why or when it started. The important thing is not how it started but how to stop it.
No-one is born with a phobia. A phobia is a learnt behavior. Your mind and body learn to associate the object of your phobia with feelings of anxiety and panic. Fear is a natural response caused by real danger. A phobia is a completely irrational fear of an object or situation that causes little or no danger.
The suggestion might have been made to you that something is bad, or dangerous, or perhaps you’ve seen someone else react with panic to a specific thing. Once your body is used to giving you a shot of adrenaline in that situation, chances are it will do it next time, too. Now this can be identified as a phobia.
Cognitive Coaching in this situation works by accessing the underlying cause of the phobia and eliminating the person’s conditioned response to the situation. As a therapist, my goal is to discover the initial event from which the phobia or fear developed. The cause is often a traumatic event which happened in an earlier time in your life. Often the phobic individual does not remember this event. It may be a memory which has been suppressed for many years.
Some people get to the point where they just cannot cope with it anymore – this could be you. And this is where coaching can make a huge difference in your life in helping you to understand and eliminate the fear or phobia.